Confused? Exhausted? This is my magic wand.

Doesnt life look like a mess sometimes? Problems look gigantic and finding a solution seems like an uphill task. There are times when we are deprsssed,exhausted and confused. Sometimes we even don’t know what to ask for.
There are times when you want to  reach out for help but you don’t know how to.

Reaching out to people might be difficult but remember that reaching out to Allah is easy. Unlike asking help from people,  asking Him doesn’t need much details and specifications. You just ask for the best.  This dua is my magic wand.

رَبِّ إِنِّي لِمَا أَنزَلْتَ إِلَيَّ مِنْ خَيْرٍ فَقِيرٌ
My Lord! truly, I am in need of whatever good that You bestow on me {28:24}(hazrat Musa’s a.s.dua)

Taming your anger

Ever felt like grabbing someone and injecting some sense?
Ever felt showering someone with abuses of all kinds?
Anger pushes us to do things which we may regret later. But is anger control easy? No way!!. It requires practice.
Does anger control mean keep suppressing your anger? No. It will brew over a long period of time and then you will explode eventually. It is not about not being angry. It is about how you deal with it.
When in situations like these, detach. Give yourself time to recollect your thoughts. Filter your words. Remove unnecessary references to the past.
Dont be tempted to speak in rage. Give yourself some time to process and then respond.

أَعُوذُ بِاللَّهِ أَنْ أَكُونَ مِنَ الْجَاهِلِينَ

I seek refuge in Allah from being among the ignorant ( 2:67)
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#fridayaffirmations

I am not lying😂

Meet my saas. This is us jumping for a photoshoot. No. I didn’t go to an aamil for kala jadoo to make her this good. She is like that.

Gives space:

dekh lo. Jo tumlogon ko behtar lagay wo karlo.

Stuffs you food
beta ye kha k jao.
‘But you have already stuffed me ammi’
Nahi, nahi. Itna sa to khaya hai tum nai!
‘ I am serious. I am full.’
Acha phir saath le jana. Ghar ja k kha Lena.

Appreciates every little thing:
‘Thank you for this glass of water.’ ‘Thankyou for coming.’ ‘Thank you for taking out time.’ 

Expresses love:
‘What would I do without you.’ She says often.
Matlab Jo dialogue  fimon mai hero boltay hain, she  says them to me ❤.

Also she is always there for me and always takes  my side.
I can never repay your love ammi.
Happy birthday❤

Wipe off that dusty slate

New year

“Holding grudges is like drinking poison and waiting for other person to die”
Arent we often distracted by the fumes of hatred, grudges and anger we carry around?. There will be unsaid sorrys and unrepentant attitudes. If you find yourself stuck waiting for the first move from the other person, may be take the first step. No?  I agree, It is not always easy to forgive and just move on. It doesn’t mean forgiveness for their wrong doings. The point is not wasting all your energies or directing all your thoughts to these grudges.
If you see no inclination from the other person to change, extend your own hand.
Death has always been unpredictable. Hasn’t it? But this year we witnessed it as never before. This year wipe  off the slates of resentments and start the year with a clean heart.

أَللّٰهُمَّ أَلْهِمْنِىْ رُشْدِىْ وَ أَعِذْنِىْ مِنْ شَرِّ نَفْسِىْ
اے اللہ ! ڈال میرے دل میں ہدایت اور مجھے میرے نفس کی برا‏ئی سے بچا ۔
O Allah! Inspire me with guidance and save me from the evil of my soul (nafs). (At-Tirmidhi)

A reminder when you are disappointed

Have your expectations ever been violated?
Has someone ever used your weakness as leverage?
Has it ever happeed that a person you trusted blindly shattered this trust?
Have you waited forever for a simple ‘sorry’, only to be disappointed?
Our expectations are meant to be broken. How would we return back to Him if everyone met our expectations? No one is perfect and no one will ever be. There would be betrayals, let downs, malice and what not. For me, these are little reminders to shift my expectations towards Him only.
Think of being hurt as a sharp jolt. It provides an opportunity to break the idols we create so frequently on the foundations of high expectations from people. What do we get? Harshness, indifference, rejections. If we don’t wash away these poisons that we consume daily, it would leave us emotionally exhausted. Use these disappointments to re-center your focus to Him.

حسبي الله و نعم الوكيل