Missed calls

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This concept ‘Missed calls’ has been coined by Ashfaq ahmed sahab in his book Zawiya.

It basically revolves around the concept of this shair by Habib Jalib.
مخلوقِ خدا جب کسی مشکل میں پھنسی ہو
سجدے میں پڑے رہنا عبادت نہیں ہوتی

AA recollects the time, he got CLI (caller identification) installed at his home and told her granddaughter proudly that now he can choose whose call to pick.

His granddaughter Maya asked him, ‘what if Allah calls you, what if you miss His call?’

AA mentioned in the book that although he didn’t  tell this to his granddaughter but he would have probably told Allah:

[“اللہ میاں ۔۔میری ابھی چار سنتیں رہتی ہیں۔ وہ پڑھ لوں تو پھر آپ سے بات کروں گا۔” حالانکہ وہ سنتیں بھی اللہ کی عطا کردہ ہیں۔]

Maya emphasized that he should keep himself alert for any missed call that might come.

AA then recalls an incident when his neighbor’s guard reached out to him for some help. The neighbor’s family was out of station at that time and only their son was home. He fell unconscious after a fit. The guard asked for help as he didn’t have any means of transportation. AA told the guard that he will see what he can do after finishing the Nimaz. When he reached there after the Nimaz, he was told that a corn seller took the boy to hospital on his donkey cart. Maya reminded AA that he missed the call.

How frequently do we miss the call from Allah? Rejecting requests for help, denying small doable favors, delaying response so someone else would help instead.

Are you missing the calls?

I am not lying😂

Meet my saas. This is us jumping for a photoshoot. No. I didn’t go to an aamil for kala jadoo to make her this good. She is like that.

Gives space:

dekh lo. Jo tumlogon ko behtar lagay wo karlo.

Stuffs you food
beta ye kha k jao.
‘But you have already stuffed me ammi’
Nahi, nahi. Itna sa to khaya hai tum nai!
‘ I am serious. I am full.’
Acha phir saath le jana. Ghar ja k kha Lena.

Appreciates every little thing:
‘Thank you for this glass of water.’ ‘Thankyou for coming.’ ‘Thank you for taking out time.’ 

Expresses love:
‘What would I do without you.’ She says often.
Matlab Jo dialogue  fimon mai hero boltay hain, she  says them to me ❤.

Also she is always there for me and always takes  my side.
I can never repay your love ammi.
Happy birthday❤

Wipe off that dusty slate

New year

“Holding grudges is like drinking poison and waiting for other person to die”
Arent we often distracted by the fumes of hatred, grudges and anger we carry around?. There will be unsaid sorrys and unrepentant attitudes. If you find yourself stuck waiting for the first move from the other person, may be take the first step. No?  I agree, It is not always easy to forgive and just move on. It doesn’t mean forgiveness for their wrong doings. The point is not wasting all your energies or directing all your thoughts to these grudges.
If you see no inclination from the other person to change, extend your own hand.
Death has always been unpredictable. Hasn’t it? But this year we witnessed it as never before. This year wipe  off the slates of resentments and start the year with a clean heart.

أَللّٰهُمَّ أَلْهِمْنِىْ رُشْدِىْ وَ أَعِذْنِىْ مِنْ شَرِّ نَفْسِىْ
اے اللہ ! ڈال میرے دل میں ہدایت اور مجھے میرے نفس کی برا‏ئی سے بچا ۔
O Allah! Inspire me with guidance and save me from the evil of my soul (nafs). (At-Tirmidhi)

#save karachi

For the people in power especially for custodians of #Karachi and for those who used Karachi for their political and personal gains.💔

Taking a break from Togetherness

This is strange! One of the secrets of “happy togetherness” is surprisingly taking a break from togetherness .

No matter how much you love someone spending something in your own separate space is essential.It can be a going out with a different circle of friends, a book club ,a Yoga class,blogging or as simple as a breakfast with a friend(this one is my favorite).

“Two bodies one soul”(do jism aik jaan). This is how love is portrayed. Do you really find it romantic or is it a little suffocating?🤮

My #1 advice for a meaningful relationship would be to spend some time every now and then to connect with your own self.
#2 Give each other some time for mood swings .No one can be happy all the time ! Give each other the time , space and right to be happy ,sad ,angry and frustrated.
#3 Don’t feel or make your partner feel guilty about spending some time apart from you.
Don’t turn this break from togetherness into some kind of accusation.Encourage each other to spend time in their own space.

Since we both started our research degrees recently ,our relationship has evolved too. Instead of fighting over non-issues ,our usual conversations are usually now like this.
“Haha ,you have a quiz tomorrow.Parho beta parho”.
“Stop watching TV. Exams Mai tv nahi dekhtay.That is what you preach na”.
“Kia mushkil hai.I have to complete this assignment ”
“Wakeup, you have to prepare for exam.”
“University jao! No chutti”
“Acha result Lana..warna susral Mai Kia mun dikhao gai”

When you spend some time on your own, you also have new experiences to share and things to talk about.

So next time when you start getting on each other’s nerves🤯 ,Disconnect.Take a break from “together forever”.